Written by Tarnia Riggs
Founder, All Eyes on Me · October 2026
Plan a lesbian wedding that celebrates your relationship, with ideas for two brides or partners, personal vows, entrances, clothing, family roles and welcoming suppliers.
Your wedding can be romantic, playful, traditional, understated or wonderfully individual. There is no compulsory lesbian wedding style. Start with what you both value: the promises you want to make, the people you want nearby and the atmosphere that will help you feel comfortable.
Two dresses, two suits, a dress and a suit, or something completely different can all belong in the celebration. Your clothing does not assign one person a groom’s role. Divide planning decisions according to your interests and availability rather than assumptions about who is more feminine or masculine.
This guide is written for couples planning a lesbian wedding. Use the words and identities that fit you personally; neither partner needs to accept a label simply because it appears in a wedding template.
You may both love being called brides and, after the ceremony, wives. You may prefer partners, spouses or simply your names. Agree how you want to be introduced and give that wording to your celebrant, photographer and reception host.
ACON’s TransHub explains the importance of using a person’s correct pronouns. For your wedding, add chosen names, pronunciations and forms of address to the supplier brief. Trans women belong in lesbian wedding planning too; respectful service should not depend on someone fitting a supplier’s assumptions.
A simple introduction could be: Please welcome the newly married Alex and Sam. If you prefer the brides or the newlyweds, use it with confidence.
You might arrive together, walk separately from two entrances, meet halfway or each enter with someone important to you. Decide whether you want to see one another before the ceremony or keep that first moment for the entrance.
Neither person must wait at the front because of her outfit or personality. If you both want an aisle moment, agree an order that feels good to you. A shared entrance can also express beginning married life side by side.
Ask your photographer to plan equal coverage of both arrivals. Allow time for both partners’ preparation and portraits, including different locations if you are getting ready separately.
Choose attendants because of the relationships you share. Your wedding party can include friends of any gender, siblings, children and other loved ones. Titles such as bridesmaid, best person, person of honour or wedding attendant are personal choices.
You can have separate attendants, one shared wedding party or no formal wedding party. Matching numbers and identical outfits are optional. Give everyone a clear role: holding rings, reading a poem, helping with clothing or keeping an eye on the timing.
Parents, chosen family and friends can offer a reading or words of support. Ask people before assigning an emotional or public role, and keep participation comfortable rather than compulsory.
Write about your particular relationship: the everyday care, laughter, shared challenges and hopes that make this person your chosen partner. You do not need to explain or defend your love to make your vows meaningful.
Agree a rough length and whether your tone will be serious, light-hearted or a mixture. Avoid private stories your partner would not want shared in front of guests.
An original personal vow example
I choose you as my wife and my companion. I promise to listen with care, to celebrate your joys and to share the work of our life together. I will keep making room for your dreams, for laughter and for the quiet moments that make our home.
These are optional personal promises. Your celebrant will supply any required legal wording and explain where additional vows belong.
Choose clothing that helps each of you feel like yourself. If you both wear dresses, you can coordinate fabric, colour or accessories without choosing identical designs. If one or both of you wear suits, discuss tailoring, comfortable movement and pockets for the things you will need.
Flowers might include two bouquets, buttonholes, wrist flowers, a shared arrangement or none. Keep the practical details in mind: who will hold a bouquet during rings and signing, and whether accessories could catch on clothing.
Tell stylists what you each want instead of allowing one partner’s appointment to become the default. Both people deserve considered fittings, preparation time and photographs.
Ask direct, ordinary questions: How will you refer to us in your forms? Can we see examples of your work with two brides? Who will be responsible for each partner’s preparation and portraits? How do we approve ceremony wording and image sharing?
Look for clear answers and respectful communication, rather than relying only on a rainbow logo. Give suppliers the same agreed brief so neither partner is treated as an extra person in a bride-and-groom package.
If faith matters to you, discuss your exact ceremony with the congregation and minister before booking. The Uniting Church’s Victorian and Tasmanian Synod explains that its authorised ministers may conduct or decline same-gender marriages. That describes this church’s position, not every faith community.
Your guests can celebrate your relationship without being asked to comment on your identities. If there are sensitive family dynamics, choose a trusted person to handle practical questions so you can enjoy the day.
Decide what you want shared publicly. A wedding announcement, supplier portfolio or social post may reach people beyond the guest list. Ask suppliers to obtain your approval before sharing photographs or personal details.
You can include community pride if it matters to you: a reading, colour detail or acknowledgement of people who supported your journey. You can also keep the focus entirely on your shared story. The choice is yours.
Marriage equality has been part of Australian law since December 2017. A legal wedding requires an authorised celebrant and the applicable formal steps. The Notice of Intended Marriage is normally given one to 18 months before the wedding, and two witnesses over 18 are required.
Your celebrant can help distinguish legal wording from the personal language you add. Our Civil Wedding Ceremony guide provides further planning context.
For a destination wedding or honeymoon, check Smartraveller and the destination’s current marriage requirements before booking. Recognition of your relationship and local laws can differ from Australia.
Written by Tarnia Riggs for All Eyes on Me in October 2026. The ceremony ideas and sample personal vows are original planning suggestions.
References and further reading
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